Building Self Confidence in Goal setting

Creating a more empowering belief system

1.1  Building a solid base of self-confidence has a major impact on improving your belief system and reversing the effects of learned helplessness.

1. Get two pieces of paper and label one piece High Confidence Situations and the other piece label Low Confidence Situations.
2. On the High Confidence sheet, list all the circumstances or environments in your life where you feel absolutely confident.
3. On the Low Confidence sheet, list all the circumstances or environments where you feel you lose confidence.

High Confidence Situations	Low Confidence Situations
Out having fun with friends Playing a sport Driving a car Playing your favourite video game Discussing topics in areas you feel knowledgeable Riding a bike Cooking a BBQ Any skill you feel confident doing.	Talking to strangers Attending a job interview Walking into a crowded room and not knowing anyone Participating in an activity you have never tried before Any activity you feel you lack skills.

Now once you have these lists, think about how you act in high confidence situations compared to low confidence situations. For example, when you are performing with high levels of confidence:

• You will walk differently. Your back will be straight, your shoulders back, your head held high. Your walking gait will be assertive, your strides powerful.
• You will talk differently. Your voice will be loud, clear and unwavering.
• You will think and feel differently to those circumstances where you feel low confidence levels. In high confidence level situations, you will not have feelings of self-doubt. You will think positively and feel self-assured.